Suicide – A message to all men!
Every time I hear about a man committing suicide it really upsets me. Yesterday was no different! A mate phoned to tell of one of his employees… That’s the third I have heard of in the last month or two.
Why is it so upsetting? Apart from the obvious loss of life and the knowledge that the person had to be tormented beyond their capacity, there is a much deeper sadness. This sadness is connected to a deep knowledge that, “it doesn’t have to be this way”…
Over the years I have had the opportunity to counsel many suicidal people, both men and women. Of these I have known at least 3 who have attempted suicide (fortunately none succeeded) and many others who have contemplated and planned. Almost without exception, actually can’t think of any, all are now engaged in life and have overcome or are overcoming the burdens and barriers that held them back. Some are thriving!
So what do we do? Most importantly –do something! If you are the one who is suicidal or if someone contacts you here are some options:
Contact someone. In Australia we have wonderful organisations such as Lifeline or Beyond Blue with 24 hour telephone counselling. (Lifeline – 13 11 14, Beyond Blue number is 1300 22 46 36)
Tell a friend or family member.
Contact your local GP.
If you have a counsellor contact them immediately.
Remember you always have the 000 option.
Don’t be alone!
Yesterday was a really hot day, 35 C. We’ve also had months of drought and everything was dry and dusty. Yet, at 5.00 pm yesterday the clouds rolled in and it started to rain. What a relief – this morning it is fresh and beautiful. Things change, circumstances change. If you are suicidal or know someone who is, our job is to get through the drought, through the darkness, past the depression, beyond the hopelessness or whatever is tormenting our souls. Please reach out – it is very difficult to do this alone. If you are the one who is suicidal please reach out, there is support available. If you have a friend in need I urge you to be patient and kind and ensure they get the help they need.
Remember, even after the worst droughts…the rain always comes!
By Andy Pocock – Clinical Director